Solid Marriage Progression
 Requires Struggle

All progress requires struggle!  If you want the fruit to grow, you must gracefully accept the rain that is needed to nourish the fruit.  And when the fruit matures and is ripe, it is most delicious to our taste buds!

This analogy can be used to explain why our relationships at times are so difficult.  No strong, loving relationship is built without enduring occasional conflict.  As humans, we do not like conflict, but it is sometimes the only thing that moves us to change our behavior, and the way we respond to our spouses, when the way we act does not contribute to unity in a loving, strong, healthy marriage relationship.  Not that we should arbitrarily create conflict for that benefit, but when it arises, deal with it in the confines of  the circle of unconditional love, patience, and commitment.  Then, it is simply viewed as a progressive rung on the ladder of love that moves you to a higher place.

Yes, the rain is tough, but when handled correctly, the end of the conflict will have brought you together like nothing else can!  The Bible references tough times of conflict as a patience builder (James 1:3-5).  And who amongst us does not need more patience? 

Patience + Commitment + Positive/Effective Communication =

 A Stronger Marriage!

By possessing the desire to remain with and understand your mate, and executing proper communication and listening skills, you are well on your way to building a stronger, happier, marriage. 

The question is, are you honestly willing to put the effort it takes into to securing your marriage?  Your success will depend on how committed and how well you are able to transform your relationship with your mate using relationship the tools and techniques. These tools and techniques are learned in relationship coaching sessions and programs.  Anything worth having is certainly worth working for, and I am certainly here to help! 

Paula Y. Martin

RCI Certified Relationship Coach / Conflict Resolution Professional

Martin Maximum Mediation, LLC

Website: WWW.MartinMaximumMediation.Com